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As a blonde, blue-eyed woman of average height, I get asked out a lot more, though I'm not 100% sure dating's actually any easier!
Brett: I'm 5'8", so I've always felt I'm in this weird middle ground of not really knowing if I'm "short" or not.
I mean, the average American male is technically at 5'10", so by that measure I'm shorter than average, but should I self-identify as "short"?
And since I also have a wider frame, I've always felt a bit stockier than I'd like.
The root cause of all that self-consciousness is that toxic masculinity garbage that makes us believe the taller you are, the "manlier" you are, and the better you are.
Chaya: I remember being teased for being short in middle school, as my girl friends had their puberty growth spurts and I stayed the same from sixth grade until forever.
That's low-key why I always feel the need to have my hair with a bit of body — to make up for lost ground.
That self-consciousness definitely stems over into my dating life too, and with online dating even more.
When it comes down to it, it's not really even about the height.Plus, navigating the world of dating is already a mess, so being on an extreme end of any physical spectrum doesn't exactly make it any easier.Kevin: I'm not one to complain about being short, because once you realize you can shop in the children's section and climb on top of things to get to out-of-reach objects, you're pretty much on a level playing field with the rest of the world. I think a lot of guys fetishize the height gap and say things like, "I'm so into you because you're so short," or "It's really hot knowing that I could lift you up in bed," etc.Meredith: I'm a trans woman who's 5'5", so average height for women in the States and shorter than most trans women I know.
As someone who mostly — though not exclusively — dates men, I feel like my height has helped me a lot with dating, because men unconsciously perceive me as "normal," and I don't activate their unconscious transphobia as badly.
So, contrary to popular belief, my dating life on the whole has actually been more successful after transition than it was before, as a cis gay man.